Should I Marry Now?

Should I Marry Now?

-Jayson Boholst Virgo

 "Nak, you're not getting any younger; you should marry now! Look at you. You're 27 years old and still, you're single!" I could still recall the voice of "Mama Cha-cha" saying these words to me 3 years ago. These are also the common lines I hear from people in our church, at my workplace, and even from our clients--the parents. It's like I am about to get deafened with these statements. I choose to defend no more - for me, it's like of no use. Phew! I rather let them enjoy whatever they want to think bout this concern.

 

But honestly, there have been so many times, usually when I'm tired and alone, that I come to ponder about this. "Should I really marry now?" I start to ask myself. I then try to weigh things, listing on my mind the things I would lose if I'd get into it as well as at those I might possibly gain if I'd pursue it. Here, then are some of the things I have come to consider about this issue: Absolute Liberty, Absolute Control over Finances, Companionship, and Responsibility!

 

 Liberty. It is something people strive to enjoying having with, at the same the reason why many people are now in prison cells. But as for me, I really am so thankful to God for the liberty I have to do what I can and what I want for my fulfillment and satisfaction. And it is this same thing that had been a vessel towards my past failures, which somehow made me mature. Am I that ready to give it all away or even slice a half or a portion of it for marriage's sake? Hhhmm... Please give me time to think.

 

Another concern I really struggle about is Finances. Hahaha! Well, I guess I am not the only person in this whole wide world who is tempted to lose heart because of financial lack. Considering my age, I am not yet that fulfilled financially and materially--not yet! Inside marriage, whatever amount I'd receive every payday would then be surrendered to my other half; I can't imagine how my life would be considering this idea!

 

Companionship. Every living creature, I believe is designed to live in harmony with other creatures. To prove, GOD Himself saw through Adam that "it is not good for a man to be alone" (Gen.2:18). So, He took one of his ribs to form a woman (because she was taken out of a man), and was soon named Eve. I admit that there have been times that I started to get bored and saddened because of being alone. There have been several times that I tried to imagine myself getting old alone, never liking how it turned it out in my mind. And I believe my Creator saw me during those times. Should I marry then so I could have someone to be with every day of my life until its end? *Sigh...

 

Lastly, if I'd marry soon enough, I have this really huge matter to face---Responsibility! It's not just a mere of it, but a GREAT one! As I have been trying to assess myself about this matter, here is what I believe in: "With great power comes great Responsibility!" Peter Parker had an in-depth realization and understanding of the word. Marriage is but a hub of great power! Some might raise an eyebrow on this point. But as a slogan goes, "Family is the basic unit of a society," I can say that one can be so influential when he manages his family really well. And it is but a man's responsibility to manage his family, regardless of his age!

 

To end this dilemma, I must continue doing what is right...that is, seeking for the positive and negative sides of marriage so I could really "weigh" things fairly. As of now, I would be so glad to hear from you...Please post your ideas below! Thanks and may God bless u!